Hi, long time lurker first time posting. I split with my ex husband over two years ago, not a amicable split, our divorce finalised October of last year. He has a very good career - that comes with an excellent pension..when I left him, I told him I wanted none of his pension and he could rest assured I'd never come for it. I wanted a clean break, we had no house or savings to split so I just wanted to walk away and start a fresh. He then came to me last year asking if I would be happy to sign away my right to his pension - I obviously agreed thinking it would be a solicitor writing an agreement and me signing it. Now I've received a d81 form requiring me to put all of my (current) earnings, benefits, savings, debts. Basically I have to completely bare my financial situation to my ex husband who gets a copy of it. I don't want that?! He has no right to see what's in my bank, savings, debts! He was controlling when we were together and I left to go into a refuge so it fills me with dread that he gets such a personal insight into my finances. I don't know if I'm just being dramatic? I don't understand though why they need my current finances for me to sign away his pension? I get nothing out of this, it's me doing it as a favour to him because he obviously doesn't believe I won't go after it in 30 years time. Which I was more than happy to do, until I realised how invasive the process would be. I haven't sought legal help as he told me last year that he had a solicitor and it was straight forward and I'd just basically need to sign something. This isn't what I'd expected. Anyone know much about them? Filled one out before? It says at the bottom that the form is being signed so that assets are divided equally - am I going to end up giving him money or something if his finances are worse than mine? I've worked my arse off the last two years to become debt free and have some savings.