AIBU partner sending pics of woman to friends

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I know this might sound petty or not that big of a deal. But my fiancé has this mate and I’ve caught them before sending explicit pics of woman from porn hub etc before to each other. Clearly woman they find attractive. I’ve told him before it makes me feel uncomfortable and he’s said it’s not that big of a deal and won’t do it again. Anyways went through his WhatsApp the other night and again he’s sent pics of some woman (I’m guessing some pornstar?) to his pal. AIBU to think this is weird as it is mega giving me the ick 🤣 what would you all do in this situation? Tia

I'd start sending pics of male fitness models and the better looking male porn actors to ppl and make sure he sees it

Hell then tell you all the reasons it's annoying, wrong, you're a slapper etc.

But will it change him .... Probably not.

Btw the better looking male porn actors include; Johnny castle/Brock, Chad White, Charles Dera (not recently), Tyler Nixon, Johnny Sins (bald/shaved head tho), Manuel Ferrara etc.

@AprilFool23 i love this idea 🤣 on it right now !

What would I do? Not marry him. He's a complete sleaze. No respect for you or for women in general. This will be your life if you marry him. He'll make promises and break them and you've already started checking up on him. This will be the constant cycle of your marriage. Him lying that he'll stop, you catching him out, him lying again, you checking up and catching him out.
On and on.
I'm speaking from experience here, on a different issue, but same cycle of lies and broken promises. If I knew as a young woman what I know now, I'd have done myself a favour and called it off after Strike 2.

Fitness models maybe Jesse Pavelka or just Google male fitness model, there are loads.

No your not unreasonable I think it's vile. My partners stupid mates send pics of women in their group chats at times and I'm not happy about that.. but he doesn't send them apparently.. if he did I'd be fuming and wouldn't stay with him that's for sure.

I certainly wouldn't be lowering myself to his behavioural standards by doing the same thing. Plus, is it really the same thing? He's objectifying women, crossing your boundaries, lying to you etc and you would be simply trying to make a point that I suspect wouldn't even register.

I'd seriously consider if a lying, porn-addled fantasist was my optimum future life partner.

LTB.

This will be the top of the iceberg, he has revealed himself to be a sleaze and he will have a wandering eye, liking womens pics on facebook etc. When they get together drinking they'll be eyeing up women together. Some men don't grow out of this bonding ritual. You're looking at a life of insecurity and feeling less than.

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Thanks every1. I’m not naive nor am I stupid - besides this sending pictures fiasco I can’t fault him as a partner. Everyone is constantly telling me how lucky I am to have a partner like him etc etc but this is the one thing that is really getting on my wick. Like you all say it is just the start of more lies to come. I need to have a long hard thing on how I’m going to deal with it but thanks for the advice :)

I'm with @Weatherwax13. The niggle of doubt has set in. Go with your gut. You've told him you don't like it but he persists in the activity. He doesn't respect your feelings. I spent years like this and wish I'd gone with my gut feeling. Don't waste your time. Get out now before you have kids. It's taken me years to get my self respect back. You are worth more.

You are already looking through his Whatsapp messages because you don't trust him. Is that the life you want for yourself?

You're looking at a life of insecurity and feeling less than.

Absolutely this. Think long and hard about whether it is worth this because I can tell you with bitter experience it is torture.

Hmm, you are lucky, hit the jackpot there.

I would call it a day before I walk down the aisle.

It's immature and disrespectful. He's not going to change. He's already told you he would and he hasn't. What are you going to do? Just keep checking his phone for the rest of your life? You will drive yourself insane. You'll keep confront him, he'll reassure you, and continue to lie.

I always say that you need to pick your partner wisely, but their friends play a huge part of who they are as a person. With friends like that who encourage this kind of behaviour, I'd be running a mile.

@AnyMucca i was looking for advice, not snide sarcastic comments. Kindly - fuckoff