My partner and I have been together for 4 and a half years. When we met he was open about his previous cannabis smoking but had stopped due to his belief that it was making him worse mentally and he was becoming too dependent on it.
Two years into the relationship he started smoking it again. He told me this was because it was helping him sleep; in the whole time I had known him he had trouble sleeping so, even though I did not understand the appeal with smoking this, I tolerated it even though his usage increased to multiple times a day.
Once I found out I was pregnant, he said that he would stop as he did not want any of that in the same house as our child. He smoked up until baby was here as he said that, once she was here, something would 'click' and he would no longer feel the need to smoke. He has a child from a previous relationship and has always said that he stopped smoking for this child and his ex-girlfriend.
He stopped for one week but in the following eight weeks, he has gradually increased smoking and does most evenings to 'help sleep' but this means he does not hear her at night so all night feeds have been my job. He gives me a 'night off' on a Saturday which consists of him giving her one bottle and me getting up at 7 with her so he can sleep in. He has only done this since I broke down 2 weeks ago because of the lack of sleep.
He has admitted that sometimes he just has one because he wants one. He has also been to his dad's to 'blow off steam' which consists of drinking and smoking; there were two nights he didn't come home at all.
Basically, I'm just after validation that I am right in feeling upset and wanting some change. Every conversation regarding my feelings has been turned around into me blaming him.