Why I feel such a hatred towards my parents

[LovelyNanny26]

Hi can someone please tell me why I dislike my parents so much.I'm 36 soon to be a mum for the second time.I'm educated, I live comfortably and I have a loving,funny and hardworking husband.Despite of it all I really don't get on with my parents (I have moved from Eastern Europe in 2006).My childhood wasn't great it was lacking in love and normal family things like outings and we have never been away together as a family.I was also sexually abused as a child by a member of my family but my mum done nothing when she found out.On top of it my mum is a very difficult person.When she was growing up she experienced domestic violence and alcohol abuse from the hands of my grandfather.She was never affectioned an caring towards me.My dad was never around(work).I have also two brothers but we don't talk to each other we simply don't know how to establish close relationship.Since I have moved my parents would demand weekly calls (but one of them would call out of their own accord).When I don't speak to them I feels amazing in my head and better as a person.Today my dad calls shouting down the phone demanding I call my mum.I have obviously stood my ground and said no(she can pick up the phone too).We haven't spoken for the last two months because she's been shouting at me and made my little boy cry during the video call.I don't really know what to do.I hate when they call me I feel physically sick and my anxiety is through the roof.Apart from that my life is good and I'm gentle happy.

You’re asking why you don’t like your parents? Really?
it’s fairly obvious from your OP.

Read your own post over again.
The reasons are there.

I would cut them out of my life. Maybe send a final message explaining why. You have many valid reasons to feel this way.

You have been very clear in your reasons.

You do not wish further contact with your parents.

They stress you and you owe it to YOUR child to do everything to keep yourself happy and well.

It is fortunate that you live far away from them.

It is time to block all their numbers and to move on.

Get some counselling if you can.

Give yourself peace in your life.

Well you more or less described my childhood as well - absent father, resentful mother, zero affection or interest from both - and I don't like my parents either. I'm nearly 55, I've been no contact with my father for 34 years, very limited contact with my mother for 25 - I've not seen her in 14 years (she lives on the other side of the world from me, I moved as far away as I could, mainly to get away from her). I also have two brothers that I'm not close to, none of us have gone on to have children of our own. I was diagnosed with C-PTSD 5 years ago.

It's a commonly held trope that all adolescents/young adults hate their parents, then move on to understanding/liking them as they get older...it's actually been the opposite for me. As I've seen the relationships my friends/partners have with their parents - the 'normal' interactions, the love/affection shown by their parents, the parents making the children the number one priority (which definitely didn't happen in my childhood) - my anger towards them has increased.

Dr Ramani on YouTube is a specialist in narcissism and she has a few very good videos which deal with parents like yours and mine. They may help you understand why you feel the way you do, but I can assure you that your feelings are not unjustified.

Thanks everyone.It's so hard I'm not close to my parents and siblings at all.I don't even know my parents ages and dates of birth.

You can go no communications with them. It’s your choice and you just block them on everything.
I had to do this with my parents as their toxicity towards me spread to wider family ( who’d only ever been kind to me and my children) At a family gathering they made out to family I was a prostitute — I wasn’t , I was a mature student struggling with study and raising children on my own. My life was better without them in it, and it was better for my children too.