A little bit about me, I've suffered a lot of pain for 14 years following previous injuries from accidents, then a fall and catching eurosepsis last year. I've been diagnosed with a condition called DISH, which is a build of of hard calcium in the spine and ligaments/tendons, then least week, a scan showed I had spinal stenosis in L3, 4 and 5, I've been suspicious of this for couple of months as I've lost control of my bladder and bowels a few times. (A condition called Cauda Aquina). In January I had part of a kidney removed and in February I had spinal injections and nerve block injections, none of these with any medication, not even a local. I'm now waiting for another operation which could either fix the problem or leave me with more pain, limited spinal movement and a high chance of becoming a wheelchair user by the time I turn 65, plus pissing and shitting myself on a regular basis.
I'm under instruction to do very little, walk about in the house, do nothing like house work, lift nothing heavier than 2 litres of milk, that won't be a problem as I don't drink it, I'm basically a prisoner in my own home, I'm not able to drive until I get the go ahead, so since the surgeries, I've been stuck, I can't even go in another vehicle, so you can imagine my level of pain and fed up is very high right now.
Anyway, onto the matter at hand, on the 14th of March a woman I'd been seeing for several months decided that we are too far apart and she wanted to end the relationship. I'm a driver, she isn't, won't learn and since Covid struck, will not go out of the house unless it's to go to her mothers or for shopping and then it's in a taxi and the driver must wear a mask, if he refuses, she sends the taxi away and asks for another (fair play, this is her choice and I accepted that). She wears a mask all the time, even when she's at home alone.
Because I currently can't drive, I can see her point of view, she has been disappointed because I haven't been able to go and see her, I've felt truly awful myself, I offered to pay for a taxi for her to come and see me, but she refused, I couldn't do much more. It left us both very upset and feeling dreadful.
During the times I was in hospital, she never visited once, even though one hospital is only 6 miles from her home, I must have taken her to 6-7 of her hospital appointments during our time together.
At 8pm, she sent me a text for the first time since March, asking me how I was, not wanting to upset her, I simply told her, "It's best you don't know", a few minutes later she replied, "I've been seeing someone new for 5 weeks, we're taking it slow, but we're OK". I'm no mathematic genius, but 5 weeks goes back to the 6th of March, 8 days before she informed me of her intentions. I didn't reply straight away, but thought about replying, I wasn't going to, but then thought, I'm going to say something about this, so I messaged her about the dates, she then replied, "we were over months before and it's my business what I do". I wrote back, "your dates don't correspond, so you are therefore a cheat and it makes me wonder if you've been playing away during the times when you say you've been shopping or staying in the house alone". There's been no reply, I don't suppose there will be.
I've never cheated in my life and never will, she's the third one who's done it to me and it makes me sick to my stomach, I hate it with a passion.