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since neighbour has split up with dh she seems to of disowned us too

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bigboydiditandranaway · 14/02/2008 14:17

We weren't really friendly but had a good neighbour relationship, she would call round occasionally with her dd but slowly since her divorce she seems to avoid us. Even when it comes down to her dd, she will try and avoid situations where my dd could play with hers

Have tried in the past suggesting if she wanted to go to places together with dd, pop round for coffee or help with babysitting but she has never taken me up on anything, which is fine, if she doesn't want to.

The last straw was when she dropped a pressie round for dd on her own to avoid dd's having any contact, when it would of been so easy for them to come round together as she dropped it off 3 days before dd's birthday and they weren't going away or anything.

My mum thinks she acting in this way because she trying to cut off all ties with her ex-husband, what do u think?

I suppose we will just have to get used to her being like this because i can't really see that anything will change and obviously wouldn't want to say anything, but it just makes me feel so sad that it has to be this way and dd is missing out.

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EffiePerine · 14/02/2008 14:22

I think she's probably having a shit time and so is drawing back a little. Keep it friendly, perhaps send her a note saying she'd be welcome over any time and leave it at that?

fairydust · 14/02/2008 14:23

different people act differently when they seperate she could be embrassed that her marriage has broken down and this is her way of coping with it

WanderingTrolley · 14/02/2008 14:33

She might find it hard to see your dd with her daddy, when her dd no longer lives with hers.

And her dd might be really clingy at the moment, and need her mum to herself.

bigboydiditandranaway · 14/02/2008 14:34

Thanks for your messages, maybe she is a bit embarassed. I just don't want to bother her by sending her a message, i feel as if i asked her too many times about getting together.

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OnACaffieneHigh · 14/02/2008 14:43

I miss read the title as your neighbour had split up with your DH, and was wondering why you thought it strange that she was acting a bit odd around you...

I agree with the other posters, give her a bit of space and hope she remembers your kind offers when she's feeling better.

bigboydiditandranaway · 15/02/2008 06:47

Thanks for your messages, i'll leave things as they are and give her space.

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