Why am I like this?

[berryvery]

I'll keep this very brief.. I don't post often but you guys give some great advice!

Girl meets guy.. swap numbers and have been messaging for a few weeks. Both decide to meet for 'fun'. Ok evening. Girl decides guy is nice but not really her type so no desire to meet again after that evening.

Courtesy texts sent the following morning.. but it's like I need validation from this guy. I'm waiting for him to message me.. why?? I'm fearing rejection from someone who I don't even want to meet again! Wtf?

I know I need to heal from past crappy relationships, but can someone help me to understand why I feel this way? How do I sort my head out?

Thanks for reading!!

Depends what you said in the courtesy text.

What do you mean by “validation from him”? What are you hoping he might say?

Other than that. Sounds like normal dating to me. Two people chat a bit, meet for a date. One or both decide there’s no spark and that’s the end of that.

You met for no strings fun but want some sort of emotional response from him afterwards? I've done this before - like you I was on a hiding to nothing, because not getting what I needed from the situation made me feel ten times worse. I guess the best thing is to not date until you've unpacked some of the past. I found Natalie Lue's book and website quite helpful