Struggling to get over relationship anxiety

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Hi

over the last few years I’ve tried to overcome my issues, depression, anxiety, anxious attachment

I would love to meet someone, but dating is so problematic for me I really struggle to get to get close to people, be myself and have anxiety with one on one conversations

I feel I put it a lot of work, but I still feel the fear and I worries it will never happen for me

I feel in limbo by trying my best but struggling to overcome my issues, I wish I could meet someone who could just accept me for me and my anxieties but I feel it’s so tough out there that nobody really sticks around to give me a chance

35 now.. is all hope lost

Of course all hope isn’t lost! Are you engaging in therapy for your anxiety and attachment issues? If you do, do you find it helpful at all? You sound like you are putting a lot of pressure on yourself and being your biggest critic (easy to do). Which parts of dating do you find tricky? Finding people? Meeting them in person? Awkward first chat? Etc xx

I do weekly therapy, reading a couple of books and go to the gym a lot to keep my endorphins up

it helps, I just feel like it’s a block I’m scared I won’t get over

i find dating scary, one on one conversations stress me out because I get worried the other person will find me boring

i had a mini breakdown yesterday because I felt frustrated by it all

i want to find a partner who understands me is patient and is my best friend .. it just seems impossible

im always the single one and I feel silly, if anything I feel the universe is against me because I have to try so hard while for others it’s easy

I’m not sure if my post above was sent as a reply to you x