Wanted some general advice and to ask if anyone else experiences this w/ friends and family?
I have BPD, and have noticed that I get this more often from those who know I have this mental health thing vs those who don't, but also that it tends to more often come from males than it does females.
Zero assumptions being made, just stating my observations on it.
(This is also specifically in verbal conversations. I don't have these issues in writing. Presumably because, well... It's in writing.)
I will say something that is (imo) pretty mild, for example;
"'X' community is probably the same size as, if not a bit larger than 'Y' community."
And it'll be twisted into the most extreme, ridiculous version, as if I'd said;
"'X' community is triple the size of 'Y' community."
Or for another example ;
"Yes, giving people the benefit of the doubt is great, but it's naïve to think there aren't people who will lie or put on a mask to get what they want."
Then being twisted into;
"Everyone is putting on a mask all the time, and everyone has an ulterior motive."
I'll then get laughed at, or mocked, or talked down to for the "obviously" outlandish thing they say I said, but that I never actually said to begin with...
This typically flusters me quite a bit due to the BPD, and I end up not being able to effectively defend myself and reiterate that that isn't what I said.
In times where I have somehow managed to say that that isn't what I've said, they'll just respond with something in the same vein as;
"No you didn't, you said the extreme thing I said that you said!"
Shutting me down with what feels similar to humiliation by continuing to mock me for a position I don't hold, but they're adamant that I do.
Does anyone else experience this or something similar? Is it a BPD thing, or just a general thing that happens when communicating verbally over written text?
How do you even counter that? How do you respond?