Crush on therapist

[Ambersparkles]

Just wondered if anyone had any experience of this. I have been seeing a male therapist (online) for a few weeks. I have felt intense chemistry with him - not saying its necessarily mutual, but I definitely got the feeling he felt it too. In our last session I admitted that I felt attracted to him and he talked about attachment styles and linked it to the fact that my dad was physically and emotionally unavailable. I am married and my DH has also been emotionally unavailable for a large part of our marriage. I don't have any male friends and I guess talking to a man who really listens and seems kind and caring, as well as being physically attractive (in my opinion) has caused these feelings to develop.

I just feel really embarrassed about this, and I even feel like not having any more sessions with him and going to a different therapist. I admitted it to him on the spur of the moment in the session, but part of me wishes I hadn't as I am cringing just thinking about it. The other part of me thinks that it's good this has come up as it's important to work through. Has anyone else experienced this, and if so, did the feelings pass?

@BumpyaDaisyevna That all makes a lot of sense - thanks again!

I think it's good you mentioned it to him. Well done!
I would be more concerned that he's giving you signals of attraction which is unethical. It might feel nice in the moment but thinking about it dispassionately it's not right for someone in his position and this sort of professional relationship to reciprocate or encourage such feelings however even professionals are humans who do stupid things. I would see if you can work through it with him in the next two sessions but if it seems like your crush is getting stronger and they aren't helping diffuse the feelings then it's best to move to a female therapist. It's safer for you to wish your therapist was your mum or sister than to risk entering sexual relations with a male.