Hi I don't know how to write this or if i should as I know I will get a lot of comments that will probably upset me. Basically my partner and I had an honest conversation a few weeks ago and it's still sitting with me. Going back 4 years ago he worked away a LOT different countries and when we spoke about him taking this job it was to better our life and as long as we communicated as much as we could it would be fine, now at the time he was working with 2 guys and we barely would speak, he always said he was tired or had no time because of driving and working which was somewhat true, we argued so much as my gut told me something was up! Anyway at the time he said it was nothing and I shouldn't be worried. He quit the job not long after and we had taken a break, skip to about a year after that I ended things as the relationship was not working I loved him but he was not in a good place. During this split he still told me how much he loved me and didn't want anything with anyone else, he did tell me that a friend had tried to set him up with someone but he wasn't interested. We worked on things and got back together, he then told me that the girl his friend tried setting him up with had sent him "nudes" and kept inviting him over I said she wouldn't just do that and he was adamant she did and that he had shown no interest, but was like whatever I broke up with him so just moved on from it. Now skip to a few weeks ago he had a few drinks with friends came back and we spoke all night to which he admitted when he was working away he went to strip clubs ( I have no problem with this, but more annoyed annoyed he lied about it at the time) and also that he had sent messages to this girl such as "why don't you come here and fuck me" which is obviously why she kept messaging him in that way, again we was broken up so what could I say? It's the the lying I hate! I can't help but think there's more to things over the last 7 years and he has told me those "less bad" things to rid some of his guilt. Please no comments of just leave him oh bin him or why are you still there as its 7 years we have 2 children together a home and our lives have been great I just need to vent really and ask if anyone has been in a similar situation and what was the outcome? Thank you