Need to leave, but no where to go and no money

[Jess1han]

Been with other half for 12 years and have 2 Yr old together. He brought the house 7 years ago, I didn't want to be on the mortgage (long story but have my reasons) but now I'm wanting to leave after years of BS, manipulation, cheating, drinking etc but feel trapped. I haven't got anywhere me and toddler can go to, I work full time on fairly decent money but also paying off alot of debt, child care etc which doesn't leave much at the end. He has moved out for the time being but keeps showing up on at the house, giving the whole sob story which I know after years of it is all fake. I've paid all utilities from my own account since the day we moved in, but doubt that count for much! I feel the only way I can get out this situation is to actually quit my job so I would be able to claim support but after years of training and working to get to this point I don't want to do that and give it all up. Any advice would be much appreciated! I feel so trapped and want to protect my baby as much as possible x

You don't have to quit your job to get child support!! He will pay it regardless

It will take time to save but you need to get deposit etc together for your own place

Are you married? That will give you property rights, if so.

If not, take a look at childcare UC which can help with payments and talk to Shelter about any help with rent. Put in a claim for child support, although the amount will be pitiful.

Save up for a deposit and hold on until your child hits three and the funded hours kick in.

Thank you!
Didn't think of shelter I'll get in touch with them ASAP!
I think your both right bide my time and save up thank you

It might be worth phoning/emailing your local council to, you can explain your situation and they can help you.. sometimes I can be a bit of a wait but spare no details of your relationship and hopefully the can help to house you. Also if there is any independent housing associations, cheaper homes etc email them.. private renting is so expensive and plays a massive part in poverty, I was looking at the rental market prior to being accepted for social housing and there was absolutely no way I could afford to live in private property I would literally be working to pay my rent.

I agree with above comment about your rights to maritime home. You need to register your interest. Have a read https://www.gov.uk/stay-in-home-during-separation-or-divorce and do asap

If you are married you will have the rights to half of the property regardless of not being on the mortgage. If you are not married keep working and saving and look for rental property. If you leave your partner you will get housing allowance and UC top up. He will also have to pay you child maintenance.