I matched with a guy on bumble one night and we we ended up chatting into the early hours of the morning and we agreed we will be in touch during the day.
When I woke up, I felt so exhausted because I stayed up all night talking to this guy, but nevertheless I reached out to him later in the day just to ask how his day was going. He didn't reply me for two days. On the third day, I sent him a follow-up message asking if he is okay and whether he would like to meet up for a coffee. He then replied, apologising and reassuring me that he is not ghosting, but that he was under stress. He didn't promise to come back to me by weekend, to confirm meeting up for a coffee. However, he never came back to me.
After a few days, I became so overwhelmed with the entire bumble experience so I deleted the app. But I couldn't stop thinking about this guy with whom I had a brief encounter. So I searched for him on LinkedIn and left a message to explain why I deleted the app and that if he would love to get to know me better, that be great. I left in my mobile number and explicitly said that I would love to hear from him.
A few days later, he replied saying that he liked my style and he was chuffed that I thought he was worth following up on. He also included his mobile number and suggested that I reach out to him on WhatsApp to plan a call.
I haven't responded to him neither have I reached out to him on WhatsApp because i think his response was narcissistic and I also think that he could have just reached out to me since he has my mobile. Why ask me to text him first? Sounds to me like he wants to be chased or is deriving pleasure from knowing he is being pursued.
Am I over thinking it? Would you reach out to him if it were you?
A part of me is saying this is a red flag and I should not bother reaching out and the other part is saying I should suck up my pride or I'll end up alone.
OLD hasn't gone well for me this far 