Resentment in a marriage

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How to overcome this? We don't have money or much time to seek out actual in person marriage counselling as we have a young family and no local family to babysit.

There must be advise on how to overcome this without actually seeking professional help?

I am so sad and need some form of structured advise on how to communicate my feelings to shake this horrible resentment feeling?

i think there’s two options: 1) do either of you work for a company that has employment benefits that include a counselling service?
2) refer yourself to the emotional well-being service on the nhs (wait times are normally longer)

I would say through these have a few sessions talking through your feelings then ask if you can have a joint session with them to mediate (most will say yes)

@Spyrothedragon23 thank you for your reply. Do you really think these are my only options ? I wondered if there we anything online that could help us form and steer a conversation perhaps .

I am so down in the fact I cannot communicate my feelings out loud - I'm sure if I could articulate them in a good way I might start to release some of the negative emotions

It’s considered a but passé by some but have a look at attachment styles - google will help - I’m very avoidant and need to give my head a wobble from time to time; really struggle to say how I feel.

@LadyGardenersQuestionTime thank you! I hadn't heard of this and willing to try anything!!! Is it the sort of thing you can do as a couple ?

Would some counselling via Zoom once DC are in bed be an option? Lots of therapists are doing this post-pandemic and costs vary so it might not be prohibitive?