No physical touch or intimacy

[narwhalsarereal]

I've been with my partner for a few years now.
When we first got together, we'd have sex, kiss, hold hands etc but it's all fizzled out.

He isn't a touchy, feely guy & I knew that from the start but I hoped for some effort at least, even just a kiss to say goodnight when we go to bed.

I need to talk to him about this as I'm getting frustrated, sexually and otherwise & I don't want to end things, but I can't see a future without intimacy & no physical touch.

I'm just at a loss on how to broach it

Sadly it’s typical in most relationships that you just become comfortable and one of you or both of you forget to put the effort in.

If you genuinely care for this person and want to be with them then explain thag you need more from him and tell him exactly what you are after. If you feel it still doesn’t change after a while then end it if that’s what you feel is best

I think you both a show and tell,
just saying more x, y & z is one thing but you need to show that yourself

Instead of having a formal conversation about it, could you try initiating first? Sometimes, people just need a little nudge. Obviously once you've given that a go and it doesn't work, then a conversation needs to be had. It'll be more natural and easier to approach the topic once you've actually at least tried to initiate.

I’m not sure that’s true. OP says they’ve been together ‘a few years’, not decades. I’ve been married for 13 years and there is still plenty of physical touch and intimacy.
Have you spoken to him about it OP?
I couldn’t be in a relationship without sex or intimacy, it would be a deal breaker.