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Is she messing around

7 replies

ChrisPbacon22 · 03/04/2023 05:33

So my gf had this friend and every time he would message her it would be things like "come sit on my face" or "get a hotle room with me" always sexual things..my gf would just reply back with lol and what not. So I said if you can't put him in his place I don't want you talking to him. Few months down the road I have her phone and find out she has been babysitting his kid for him Monday to Friday she's been hiding it... then at the start off winter she got new winter tires told me her dad got them...just found that he bought them for her then just a few weeks ago he bought her a tile so she don't lose her keys. And just recently he's been asking if I have fixed her exhaust on her car yet. Cus it's so loud and keeps saying that he's gonna get it fixed..she's always texting him and even telling him problems we are having and sending screen shots of our convos to him...is there more going on...and is it right for him to be paying for things and buying her things

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Aquamarine1029 · 03/04/2023 05:49

Stop wasting your time and end it. This relationship is doomed.

JorisBonson · 03/04/2023 06:22

Why are you awake so early? You can have a lie in during half term.

Bepis · 03/04/2023 06:25

She's playing you both and probably sleeping with you both too. She enjoys the attention otherwise she would shut it down.

I'm married and if another man sent a message like that to me, I would put him right in his place and probably not speak to him again for disrespecting my relationship.

GreyCarpet · 03/04/2023 08:32

I used to know a man who would message me things like that. I used to hang out occasionally with him and his friend (who I liked and didn't message things like that).

Long story short, I didn't like the way that man spoke to me so I have no contact with him any more. I'm really good friends with the other man and his partner.

Whatever he is, he is not her 'friend'. She either has utterly shit boundaries, she likes the attention and validation or is sleeping with him. None of which bodes well for your relationship!

Pseudonamed · 03/04/2023 09:49

He is disgusting and shes as bad for letting it happen. Total disrespect. Get rid.

Mamma2bee · 03/04/2023 10:31

In short - yes. She's lying and messing you around big time. I had someone tried to message me like that and it was a block and delete job straight away.

username1722 · 03/04/2023 22:19

So many red flags in one post. She's lying about where she is, she's unable to assert relationship boundaries, she's confiding in him about your relationship issues etc etc.

She either likes him or likes the attention. And she knows it is wrong, otherwise she wouldn't be lying about it.

If my partner did all those things and sent screenshots of my messages, I'd be furious.

Walk away, you deserve more than this.

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