Attachment anxiety

[newlysingle1]

Hi I need some help as I am utterly so angry at myself. I have come out of a 15 year relationship and met someone else .. I am outgoing and confident (well thought I was ) he is alot quieter ... we like each other but I am
So anxious waiting for him to text that I want to end it ... we both said we want to keep it casual for now but I am not used to this and it is making me I'll with anxiety I can't sleep etc and sound utterly ridiculous putting this as I am 48!! Does anyone have any advice as at the moment I feel like messaging him to end it so I don't need to feel like this

Hello, I have attachment anxiety...many times I can step back and ask myself "is it reasonable for me to feel this way ?" With messages etc people have different levels of need which may be different to what they would like, so as an example "I would like to get a good morning message" but I don't need one as in I won't be upset or anxious if I don't. I think by saying you would like to be casual it's hard to know what your needs are. I said to my bf that if he's out and it's too late to call could he send me a message as I get anxious and check my phone during the night if I don't hear from him - that's a need. Before writing your bf off, I would say that you really like to chat by message each day, what's stopping you from messaging though?
I understand about your divorce, I was very confident in relationships and then my husband ended our marriage quite out of the blue so I think that accounts for my general anxious behaviour in relationships. I need quite a lot of reassurance to feel comfortable and then anxiousness goes but I do think you need to let your bf know.