Situation in which I am wondering if I need to be suspicious

[Liliac786]

Hello everyone,i'm wondering about this situation

A group of friends I met through the Meetup app, around 5 guy friends and I (I’m a woman) regularly hang out on Friday nights. But recently I’ve been getting more suspicious. About 1,5 months ago, at a Meetup when we were together, one of the guys mentioned he felt like he was in another world and very sick at the bar, and later when he went outside to get fresh air he became unconscious and fell on the ground and to this day he has headaches a huge scar and was not working till recently. We all assume his drink got spiked. When we were at the bar, 2 guys approached my friend and wouldn’t leave him alone so it’s possible that they might have been involved.

But one of the guys in my group who is gay but mentions he is also attracted to women and is usually the most aloof, nonchalant guy kept calling me and messaging me, asking me what the guy who fainted (who I am closer to) told me/ how he is. He mainly seemed to want to know what my friend who fainted told me which is what I found strange, also he normally never calls.

He can be quite selfish and is the only person in the group who will not help others when they are moving places. 3 of us have moved in the past year and he always refused. He is married and mentions he is in an open marriage and is very much looking for hookups at meetups. Therefore, with his lack of empathy I was a bit surprised at how much he was calling me.

I never made any conclusions, because there is no proof and this wouldn’t be fair since my friend could have been drugged by anyone, also the guys who kept talking to him, as well as anyone else in the group.

But when I went to dinner with the group, and 30 mins later I got a stomach ache, and had to leave home, and the next day I still had pain, (nausea/ upset stomach can also be a sign of drink being spiked).

Do I have a reason to be suspicious?

Thanks

Doesn't sound like a group I'd want to be part of tbh.

I would cut them off.
The guy should and could have been tested to see what caused this and you could have told him that there is a person very interested in knowing what he said.

Do I have a reason to be suspicious

Why do you think we know any better than you?

If you're not comfortable around someone, don't spend time with them. That's how to maintain your boundaries, and it really is that simple. The question 'Should I be suspicious?' doesn't come up in healthy friendships.

Unhealthy dynamic is you and 5 guys, some of who are looking for hookups hanging out - especially if you don't want to hook- up with them.
If you are suspicious, don't put yourself in suspicious circumstances - drink bottled drinks only if you can, keep them with you at all times with your thumb over the top preferably.
Doesn't sound like this guy is a favorite of yours. Talk to the others, see how they feel about him, and exclude him from the group if you all agree as the safety of the rest of you could be at risk. Either take him off any group chat or form another between the 4 of you so he doesn't know about future meets.
If your friend got taken to A&E, they should of tested him for drugs, so he should know the answer on that, ask him, but don't tell the other guy as this will be what he is afraid of.

OP do you suspect your friend?