Hi I'm just looking for advice. me and my wife have been together for 14 years we have several beautiful children together the youngest 4. Just over a year ago I found my was messaging another man. I Confronted her about this I was completely destroyed. She told me that there is no spark between us no more. Not for a few years So she stopped the messages so for the best part of Year things had been going well. She feel pregnant and we was getting great. Just to clear up I'm very involved dad do anything for my children loads around the house. Treat her very well look after myself hygiene gym etc. So about 3 months she has a miscarriage. This completely destroyed us both but was getting on well. But since then I could feel her drifting away. So now fast forward to now. She drops the bomb when I ask her hey what's up. I'm sorry but I just don't love you in that way. I have no spark for you you have been amazing the last year and can see how hard you have tried.But I just don't feel that love for you no more I still miss the way I felt when I was messaging the other guy. I'm not in contact with him and do not speak to him it was only messages no meeting him etc he is a slimy little guy even had a gf i wanted to go and hurt him so bad but i knew if i did i would lose her forever. I believe her nothing on her phone no sneaking about no hiding stuff. But I just can't keep doing this to you as I can see how much its breaking you. I'm a very romantic man. I injoyin that sort of relationship making her feel Special. She says I'm great in bed but can't get into it no more. I can feel this from her takes ages to get going. Where is I still have to burning passion. Now she says she put everyone else first but she can't going feeling like this. I've told her how I feel I've been I mess I've tried to hold it together. But the love I have for her and my children is endless. And the thought of losing them all kills me. I'm not sleeping and not coping. When I talk to her she won't even put her arm to comfort me. I don't know what to do. She says she can't look at me as she hates the pain in my face. I don't normally right stuff on the Web. But I have no-one to talk to I fell very lost. I have I bad habit of trying to talk to her to much ill admit It makes me weak. And she is a very strong woman ill say hey can we try and sort this out and she will just stand there like he's talking to me again ffs. Like abit of rubbish I feel. I know I'm doing I'm doing it but can't think off what else to say. All she says is I know your hurting I love you I like spending time with you. We have a great laugh but that's it. When we get bk from a nice day I know I should cubble up with you but I just can't. But I'm not in love with you there jo spark so it goes on like that. Now we have everything Financially together. This would cripple us both. The kids would absolutely Destroyed. There used to being there alot.i work school hours so I'm home to pick up and help out. I've tried everything I can think of she is rather a sulky person can last for days. I'm not I am a this is silly kiss and make up. I am still in pain after losing the baby a few months ago now this. I feel this will send me over the edge so the stage we are at now. Is ever time I talk to her it gets worse she said let's see how it goes. Then I I try to clear the air day later then its look I've made my mind up we are finished. She was only texting me a couple of weeks ago hey thanks for a nice day. My heads all over the place but I'm good now I love you. What a mess about I don't deserve this everything that a man should do right. Thank you for anyone that's reads this I'm truly desperate to save my family I feel the messages to this guy as it was just messages always leave her wondering what if! As she was found out before anything happened. She can't see what a fool she has been some little slim ball with a gf has given her attention and she's fallen for it. Obviously I must have been doing something wrong to push her to do it. This past year has been awful for me and I thought about killing myself. I won't do it as my children need me. But I have to be honest how I feel. Thank you to anyone that reads this x x