Romance - Advice Needed Please....

[stirlingmum]

Right, so we have been to our 4th Relationship Counsellor session and we are trying to move on from dh's affair from last year and we are trying to concentrate on our relationship. The counsellor says that we need to be more romantic with each other because I seem to be totally focusing on the dc's and dh is just totally into his work. She asked us what would be romantic and I say justing spending time together, talking, listening and dh says going out for a meal and the counsellor just groans and rolls her eyes saying we have no idea how to be romantic. She says romance is all about gestures, like doing something small for the other person. Sooo, I am looking for some advice on what everyone else believes romance is. Quite timely really considering the date tomorrow... All comments/advice gratefully received.

Oh you will be fine, I am sure of it. You just have to keep working at it. Whoever said relationships aren't meant to be easy was right!! xx

Thanks xx

Any more ideas on romance or romantic gestures??

DH was having a really stressful day at work, was going to call in Starbucks for coffee and take it to work for him, BUT, instead, came home made a dozen blueberry muffins and a couple of cafetierres, and took that in for DH and his team.

I did feel a bit stepford wife'ish, but he thought it was really romantic, and I think he secretly liked being made a bit of a fuss of by his obviously adoring wife.

ooh yes, I make lovely cakes for my DP to take into the office, he walks out the door with his chest stuck out like a cock sparrow he loves the attention too!

CBM - That is such a lovely thing to do - I am afraid that dh's usual office is in Budapest (when he isn't travelling around) so can't really turn up there with cakes.
He has rung tonight to say he is missing me which has got to be a good thing

Wow, now that would be one hell of a romantic gesture. To turn up in Budapest with a tray of cakes

I am not sure what the airline people would say
"Did you bake pack the cakes yourself?"

watch a funny movie together. do you have the same sense of humour? DH and i went to see 'the wedding singer' on our first date and it still makes us laugh now

Write a love note and slip it in his pocket, so he can read it on his journey to work. Find something new to do together, we go to Glastonbury, and totally love it, nothing to do with family life at all (and give the cricket a try, I never looked at the game before we got married, but love an evening at the Oval now)

Soopermum1 - Movie thing is a good idea - We just love Austin Powers (not everyones cup of tea) but the first time we watched it we nearly died laughing - will dig out DVD for the weekend.

Minum - I do think that watching cricket out in the open is alot more interesting but we are in Scotland at the moment - enough said! We do need to find things to do together though - will have to give it some thought.
Thanks x