What do people mean when they say “healing”

[TheWitchingHour]

So I’ve recently had a break up, I’ve been handling it OK so far, I can feel myself bubbling under the surface but I’ve got children that need looking after so I need to keep myself at the level I am now.

Ive have some pretty shitty relationships in the past and I’m at the point in life now where I really want to heal and make myself happy and raise my bar, everyone keeps telling me I need to heal, but how do you even begin to heal?

I’ve had a lot of therapy recently which is coming to and end as I’ve exhausted my amount of sessions allowed. It’s definitely helped but I still feel like I need a lot more healing.

so what are your tips for healing into happiness, I’ve definitely lost myself

The book 'Welcome Home' might be helpful. In a nutshell it maps a path of realistic building blocks that teach you how to become your own best friend.

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More therapy !
I’ve had a few but latest is heads and shoulder above any I’ve had

many were sticking plasters , but this one’s good . You’d need to ask around a bit ideally to find one (she’s a psycho therapist ) and go via referral

we are digging into my childhood and behavioural drivers

I’ve also been doing a lot more research into groups and podcasts for issues specific to me

what I can say is I’m feeling more forgiving
both to myself and to people (even my exes)

plus self care , whatever you are into - increase it and make it happen

@balconylife

I think it's a multi pronged approach. I personally find things like getting a new haircut, makeover, losing weight, redecorating, moving my room around, decluttering to the max all helpful - as they are cathartic - and "healing" in and of themselves. A holiday somewhere new where you can relax in nature and reflect. Reading some books about trauma and CPTSD also helped me a lot because I could realise what I went through and grieve what I didn't have - I cried a lot when I read them. Meditation - somehow frees up stuck emotions. It's an ongoing process of trying different things, modes of therapy etc. It doesn't all have to be traditional therapy. You may find healing through art or yoga. Anything a bit cathartic.