Constantly thinking

[AllthetimeYou]

Any advice on how to stop thinking about someone, about how to stop wanting to message someone?
This person was an EA over 10 years ago, they are only interested in being friends with me, nothing more but I've recently become obsessed with them again.

They're single but I'm married and I do love my partner, I need to stop obsessing over this other person.
I've built them up in my head to be something more to me than they are.

Also advice on seeing this person in a social setting soon (not until May and my partner will be there) - how to act normal around a crush (if thats what it is).

Engage in your own life and spend time with your husband?!

If your busy and enjoying your life you wouldn't be wasting your time in an imaginary world. He wouldn't be what you think anyway - you have created him into something else in your head.

The sensible advice is to focus on your partner, your life etc.

In reality, if you're an obsessive over-thinker, they won't help. You need to instead develop an ick. He's 10 years older, his politics are shocking, he picks his toenails and eats them, make the ick up... anything that gets you seeing that he's not this amazing human being that you've built him up to be. It's a fantasy that's never going to be as wonderful in real life.