Wanting opinions obviously
I have been with my husband for 23 years . We have 2 children aged 16 and 9 .
He sometimes has a drink at lunchtime and weekends when at home . I have no problem with people doing this except his tolerance is really low . Even 1 drink and you can tell , he looks pissed , is snappy and moody and gets argumentative . Not physically aggressive. Then falls asleep .
We agreed that he wouldn't drink before kids in bed or when he was alone with a child . He can go out and get hammered with no problem from me . Just not drink in front of children because of his argumentative mood and because he shouldn't be unable to drive or help if maybe child needed help .
We've just had some financial stress and he gave up drink with no problem and despite the financial worry we got on great .
Now he's working again and drinking again
Last week he couldn't come to parents evening because he went to pub at lunch and missed picking daughter up and looked pissed , smelt of alcohol at 3:30 .
On Saturday I took teenager out and came back to him in his bad mood where he started telling our eldest off for something really petty . He had been in house with youngest who was occupying herself and he took himself to bed because he had a drink and went to bed .
I had prepared meal and he had to just put it on . When we got home he got up but it was painful watching him trying to put dinner on so me and Dd took over , he was snappy and short tempered .
I reminded him on Monday what we had agreed and he apologised said it wouldn't happen again , he was wrong etc but this is a cycle
Help