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How to get over unrequited crush

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Frankbutchersfangs · 30/03/2023 20:16

On my colleague who I have to see several times a week? It’s so painful and it’s making me feel depressed because I know the feelings aren’t reciprocated and plus it’s a bad idea to date at work. I just feel this gut wrenching emptiness that he isn’t attracted to me. I never thought of him in that way until he paid me some attention and since then the obsession has taken over my mind. He’s stopped giving me any special attention now but I can’t get back to how I felt about him before, which I want more than anything.

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Frankbutchersfangs · 01/04/2023 15:47

Watchkeys · 01/04/2023 14:16

I think you might have to learn that having a crush is quite an immature way of finding life 'hell', and that if you wait for a bit, this time of discomfort will pass by.

What do you do, day to day, that feels good, to you? What do you do that you absolutely love? I suspect that you're not providing yourself with what you need, and so all the possibilities in life are eggs in this one basket, 'him'.

He's just a bloke. Just one. He's not the key to your escape from hell. This is your own life. Are you really going to make it about him? Or are you going to look for something better to do?

You’re so right; I need to find other ways to get distraction from boredom and uncomfortable feelings. I’m using him as a substitute to feel good about myself, rather than taking steps to make that happen without relying on another.

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Livelifelaughter · 01/04/2023 17:23

Going against the grain here.
Firstly many romances begin at work.
Secondly he sounds to me as if he is interested but doesn't know what to do.
Even the most confident of men I know want a woman to show interest.
Can you do something to show you are and see if he responds, I met a guy who asked me if I was married, single etc admittedly hard at work but if he says about the weekend you could ask " did your wife enjoy X too "

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