Should I move on? - Advice

[Mel9619E]

I (27) have been with my partner for 6 years and in that time we had a beautiful little girl. The issue is we have grown apart, although he is older (29) I feel that I have two children to care for. He doesn’t help with any housework and doesn’t help with childcare unless asked. He doesn’t spend any 1-1 time with our daughter even during weekends instead plays video games with friends. Recently I have had the worst week, I had a minor op, one of our dogs passed away and my nephew of 18 weeks passed. During the past few weeks he has not asked how I am feeling or dealing with anything, he even sleeps in another room. He has always avoided minor arguments and won’t talk them through but will over text even though we live in the same house. I had always imagined my life with him as we began as friends when I was just 16 but through all this sadness I am starting to wonder if I would be better without him. Any advice appreciated, thank you.

I’m sorry to hear about your nephew. 😢 Your dp doesn’t seem ready to be a grown up/dad. What is the point of him? Seriously, what is he contributing to the relationship?

He's not a partner is he, and you could well be less stressed and more fulfilled without him in your life.

Thank you. This is what I’m beginning to wonder more and more. It’s honestly the dread of having the conversation.

It gets done when the relationship becomes such a burden that the conversation has itself.
Honestly from what you've described this conversation does really need to be had.

imagine ten years down the line you're still with him and it's still like this. You could be living a much better life.

Yes I definitely think you’re right and that thought does worry me especially when I think of my daughter I don’t want her to grow up thinking this is to be expected. Thank you

Have a "come to Jesus" conversation where you lay it out that unless he starts doing his share at home and with the kids (not "helping"), your relationship is at stake.

I'm so sorry about your nephew. 💐

He sounds worse than a lodger, definitely not your partner, at least a lodger would do their own cooking and housework, more like teenager that goes to his room and games all the time. What is the loss to break up with him? you do everything anyway.

That’s it exactly, I’m becoming more and more frustrated with it all. Just do not feel supported in the slightest, I think because I believed him to be a different person when we met and realised that he isn’t who I though (took me a while though haha).