Is this a red flag?

[NewlySingleAndUnsure]

Looking for advice please as I’m newish to the dating scene after coming out of a LTR last year.

In January I met a guy online, started chatting etc. it was very much a sex thing for us both at first, and we met up a couple of times. After the third meet up, and second time spending the night together we had the conversation of whether this was just a sex thing or maybe a dating thing. We both said we’d like to see where it went, and would maybe like it to be more than sex.

Before we first met we had the conversation of how long we’d both been single and he initially said a year and a half. I have since found out, today, via an Instagram stalk (please don’t judge, we all do it) that he actually was in a relationship until at least 3 months before we started chatting.

I’m due to see him tomorrow for dinner and an adult sleepover. Should I mention it? Should I be overly concerned that he lied initially when asked? Or should I just think the conversation happened when we were yet to meet and neither of us knew if it would progress, and therefore move on from it?

I can’t decide if I’m making a big deal out of the lie in my head, or whether things said before you establish ‘what this is’ can be forgiven/ignored?

Any help much appreciated.

In my 20s I came out of a 3 yr relationship and then had a few months where I was seeing people for a couple of months at a time. I didn't consider them proper relationships. They didn't meet my parents for example. When I got together with dh i didn't count those when discussing how long I'd been single. I wasn't hiding them, they just didn't register. He knows about them but knows I was just 'seeing' them rather than them bejng my boyfriend. Could it be that?

Hmmm.... I think as it was intended to be casual, maybe he was simply referring to how long it was since he'd last been in something serious or committed? (I'm assuming the instagram photos weren't of his wedding!!)

Just ask him.

From what I saw on Instagram it was a proper relationship. Based on more recent posts from the ex it is very clearly over, but a lot more recently than he initially said.

I wouldn't say anything for now. He might have considered the recent relationship as casual.

I wouldn't mention it as it's not a good look to say you've been going through his instagram that far back. However, I'd keep your eyes wide open going into this.

If you spot any more red flags, get out of there. Even if it turns out to be nothing, it'll drive you crazy and it's not worth it for someone you barely know.

The early stages of dating are meant to be fun. If it's more anxiety-inducing than fun, get out of there.

"adult sleepover" . . .

You sound very immature Move on and stop stalking people through SM.