Can't decide whether I want to date again or not after breakup.

[Dontknowwhatiwant1]

My 4.5 year relationship ended in early 2021. It came out of the blue to me, he told me he didn't love me and never had. To say I was heartbroken is an understatement, but I've eventually bounced back with the help of some counselling. However, it took about 1.5 years to feel myself again. I vowed then that I'd never get into another relationship, would never trust another man to be honest with his feelings.
I was single for a long time before this relationship and am very comfortable and happy in my own company. My male cousin recently told me that his friend was asking him if I'd be interested in going on a date. To be honest, this has really scared me, I feel so apprehensive, even though I haven't given an answer yet.

One reason is I'm so afraid of getting hurt again, and the other reason is maybe I'm someone who's better suited to single life.

I haven't been on a date in the 2 years and 4 months since breakup... is it too soon, or should I go for it?

It can be very hard to trust again, I'm still in the process of getting over a relationship which ended quite a while ago, I'm slowly beginning to think I'd like to date again and see what happens but not having expectations of a relationship unless it feels right. The good thing about a date is you're not emotionally invested, so you can walk away without a second date if he isn't for you, or he might be just the company you need to help you move on.

Well, it is only a date. It isn't a lifetime commitment - it's meeting this person as potentially a one-off event. It doesn't have to go anywhere. It could be literally be a cup of coffee and a nope.

It doesn't have to be a big deal. If you go, you're going to scope the guy out, not marry him. 😊

It depends whether you think it might be fun to do, or even good for you to.

This looks like 'I'd decided to never go to the cinema again, but someone I don't know and am not really interested in has asked me to. Should I go for it?'

Well, no. If you don't get excited by the idea of doing something, don't do it. You're not obliged. It's unlikely to be damaging if you go, but why would you?

Give it a chance. Doesn’t need to be anything serious. Will be good to get out there again and just focus on enjoying yourself and see what comes from it

I knew you'd be along to say exactly this! 😁

And it's true, OP.

If you want to go, go. If you don't, then don't.

What's all this 'should' business?

We get so stuck i our past trauma that we forget that we are only on this planet for a short time and life is for living

i am blessed that I was able to work through my similar issues with my coach but I really know how you feel 🤗🤗🤗