Narcissistic co parent

[Yellowducksarecute]

Please help ex is taking advantage of me. He’s going on a week long holiday leaving me with two year old I have deadlines at uni this month it’s crunch time and I need space and time to finish my projects and exams and he’s taking a trip away and I’m watching her basically the whole month because when he’s back he’s at work and it’s up to me to watch her again. It’s so unfair he uses me like this when he should be organising childcare on his end when it’s his days with her instead of booking holidays on my time :( he’s so selfish I can’t cope I’m so stressed. I want to graduate it’s my final year I’ve worked so hard but this has threw me right off. It’s hard because it’s a course where I need to make a film and write my dissertation and I have two other modules and essays with them too.

That’s really out of order. You can tell him that he needs to sort out childcare if he’s away, but fact is he probably won’t and will leave you to cope. It’s so unfair, sadly many like him. My ex went to work overseas 3 times, so out of the 12yrs we have been apart he’s been away for 7yrs. Unbelievable

Hi Op
I assuming you obviously have no family support around you,

I know the Tory Government we have got are supposed to be improving financial cost of childcare too,
Find out about this on Gov.uk website too,

Could you find out if any nurseries in your area or further in next town/city , would be able to take on your daughter,
especially as it will be only be for a brief while until you pass your uni,?

Also could you find out with Social services the registered childminders list in your area,

I did this a long time ago,

As at that time I was a struggling single parent with a little girl,

I had a lovely child minder who became a friend of sorts,
got on so well with her,
Brings back happy memories...

could you ask trustworthy good friends to help babysit too, for a while,?

either pay them or do a favours for them for e.g you could help them in return later down the line,
or just give them present as a thank you like , healthspa membership card voucher

I really think as many Uni should have onsite attached nurseries attached to them,

I think they may now have social services registered childminders list of Gov.uk website,

If not ?
Tel your local social services office in town or
get in touch with nearest council hub services place @Yellowducksarecute

Best of Luck @Yellowducksarecute

Hope you pass your uni course,

I am sure you will do with flying colours,

What a obnoxious Prick of ex Partner 🙄 you have got,

Make sure you change your maintenance payments from him to be based on you having your child 7 days per week.

With mine I can't tell him whenever I have anything important coming up on my own days or when he's meant to have little one or he does his best to sabotage. Grey rock. He will have booked the holiday on purpose. Find a way around it, you can do this, you don't need him whatsoever, he's a selfish arse, just think of the satisfaction knowing you've finished this degree without his help. Get your anger rather than not seeing the way out. Honestly it'll help. Good luck!

Thank you for all your advice!
i wish I could find someone to be with but after being with him I’m losing all hope