Help me fix this please

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And please no judgements and nasty posts. I know I am in the wrong. I am also very vulnerable mentally so PLEASE no nasty posts. I cant deal with them I just want advice.

Last night I had a few too many drinks with friends. My other half is away and has never given me reason to distrust him but his social media is filled with strangers as he is in the entertainment industry and these are all contacts. Lots of them are women.

For the past few years although I have seen comments and posts from women I have largely ignored them but last night with the wine in me I went down a rabbit hole of things and saw he had liked profile pics of some of these women. He hasnt commented on any just clicked like on them and it really upset me. The issue is that I normally internalise my insecurities but I did not this time and this morning I told him I was unhappy with it etc and felt humiliated that he liked these pics etc and I may have gone on a bit saying it was a no from me if he was going to be like this. As I said he has never given me reason to not trust him and I do but last night I got really hacked off about it all.

Anyway he has now blocked me on fb which has utterly destroyed me and we have had words on whatsapp but not since earlier today as he seems to be ignoring me although he is away for work too. I blocked him childishly on whatsapp and said unless he unblocks me on fb we are done.

I know how childish it sounds and really do not want to hear that because I know but how can I make this better? I am insecure as a person, I am in therapy for it and he has said now I sound unhinged which I do but how can I fix this? I love him with all of my heart but I also feel sick at him calling me unhinged and not sure I should accept this although I probably came across that way to him when I messaged him.

Any advice?

So he knows you have insecurity issues and are in therapy for it? But when you had a wobble after wine (hell, we've done stupid things after a few glasses at some point) about him liking other womens pictures, his reaction is to block you and ignore you and call you unhinged?

He had actually liked the pictures, you haven't accused him of doing something he hasn't actually done, but went on a bit about it upsetting you. So you probably went over the top, and its probably, like you say, only done as part of his job, but thats a bit of an odd reaction from him.

Surely he would know that someone who is insecure to the point of seeking thereapy might not be over the moon at their partner liking pictures of other women. Has he ever explained he does that as they are job contacts, and maybe is that the thing to do in that industry? no idea. So that needs to be dealt with.

Unless theres a back story that you go on at him all the time over every little thing, and this was some sort of tipping point for him, it does seem a bit over the top of him to get angry, block you and call you unhinged.

Maybe unblock him on whatsapp, tell him you are sorry for going on, that you found it upsetting and can you both talk about it calmly so you can understand. If he still won't discuss it with you, or attempt to reassure you, I'm not sure hes the right person for you right now.

Oh and he needs to apologise for calling you unhinged. Over the top, needing to calm down, whatever, but unhinged is pretty savage

It really sounds like you’re not in the best place to have a relationship now if this has bothered you so much, leave him on block and work on your self esteem before you date anyone else