Narcissistic abuse forum recommendation

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Does anyone have a recommendation for a narcissistic abuse recovery forum - where stories are shared with other survivors

sounds like something that would attract narcissists

I don’t think these forums are positive.Every time you tell the story you will relive the experience. Again and again and again. It would be better to put your energy back into you and moving forwards.

It's a pickle of a conundrum when it comes to whether a forum/thread for Narcissistic survivors is worth investing time in tbh. I've been told by my close friends that people with NPD would go onto sites & pretend to be a victim of NPD just to get their supply & get their kicks from the innocent people who have been put through abuse themselves which breaks my heart to see them going through more pain thinking they are talking with other victims when that's not the case at all. I personally feel it's best if children are not involved to walk away, block, delete & go no contact. If children are involved go the grey rock method! x

Ok thanks it’s good advice

Look up Richard grannon.

Caroline Strawston has a great podcast.
I've not joined any fb or insta groups but I have found it extremely helpful to hear her experiences and to put things into context for me.

There's a Reddit subreddit called 'raisedbynarcissists' that I found a lot more helpful than therapy. I didn't share my own experience, but reading other people's made me feel understood, less alone, and surprised by how near-identical our stories were in places. And sometimes it helped me to laugh at it all, which helped loads :) It's for people with narcissistic parents, but if that isn't your situation, it has links to a network of similar subreddits that deal with other work/personal relationships with narcissists, too.

Life After Narcissism is one of the other subreddits linked - it might be closer to what you're hoping to find. I hope you do find somewhere supportive!

It’s really common after an abusive relationship to want to try to make sense of it and share experiences. Unfortunately it can lead to endlessly researching narcissism in an attempt to understand what’s happened and to avoid it happening again. This means your energy is still on the abuser instead of yourself and it’s why many people are still stuck years later.

You will not find the “why” on these forums. The “why” is within you. You need to heal and be kind to yourself, and invest your precious time in yourself, not him. Im sure he’s already had too much of your time.

Have a look at Alan Robarge on YouTube. You will get far more peace and comfort from him than you ever will trying to understand what makes abusers tick. Good luck op, it’s a horrible place to be.

Have you checked out Quora or Reddit for advice? Both sites are amazing for finding out information x

Have a look Dr Ramani Durvasula on YouTube.

Hi Deathby1000, like the OP I'm too looking for support after being involved with a narcissist. Took me 7 years to get out. I'm a guy, but this can happen to anyone. Ive not read all the thread but hope the op has found support. I totally get what you are saying about even just reading others posts can help a lot. And I too laughed about it all when you said some of it help you laugh re about it. So, thanks also for supplying the reddit links. Will defo check them out. If the op is involved with a narc then I hope the obvious truth wins out and not like me (likely most ppl involved with a narcissist tbh) you let your heart take over and be abused, used, cheated on and deceived because you believe the time they initially love bombed you will ever come back. It doesn't, and never fully will. 7 years! Lol. Sorry, but I'm only fresh out of it... Knowingly far from my normal self.

I was with my partner for 30 years and we have a son together who is on the autistic spectrum.I loved my partner very much and believed he was loyal to me as I was to him in everything didn't even cheat in my head I also have child abuse in my past the worst you can do to a child.I was always aware he was full of his self importance but because of my backroud what you have to under stand he wasn't aware that he had a personality disorder and also his mu was the same and let's just say she was vilant towards him so bad he had to be removed from her care he also suffers from ocd ADHD amongst other things and he always tried to control that side of himself baring in mind neither one of us was aware.about 8 years ago we went through an dramatic exsoerience and things got really bad for me in the end he and his mum were abusing me and then if thing couldn't be any worse he goes and suddenly passes away leaving me not understanding what the hell was happeng any advice I could really do with some

Hi I am back I forgot to say asks he hadn't been diagnosed by a doctor I figured it out because the narsassist I was living with was on catnnip all of a sudden so I looked it up after he passed and was blownaway it was like they were discribeing him to a my mind was blown because after 30 years and I wasn't fully aware at this point I fealt some familiar I dealt what my mother maid me deal unsafe and in over my head

Avoid forums!

There's a Dr Ramani on YouTube who posts excellent content - might be worth your while.