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Dumb OLD question - Bumble notifications- WWYD?

4 replies

Jefferz54 · 25/03/2023 18:40

Hi

Been seeing a guy I met via OLD (Bumble) for about 2.5 months now. There hasn't been talk of exclusivity yet, but we've been meeting up on a very regular basis and stay in touch via WhatsApp in between. Up till now I've had no reason to think he's messing me around in any way.

Yesterday we went out for drinks (was my treat), and he was way more tipsy than I was. As we left he was ordering an Uber back for us on his mobile and we were both looking at his mobile trying to see how many cars were in the area. I noticed on the top of his phone he had various notification icons, including the beehive icon for Bumble. I don't think he noticed/cared, as he didn't pull his phone away or anything.

Now I put my Bumble dating profile on incognito about 2 weeks after I met him, so I guess I could be a hypocrite for not getting rid of it completely. However, I use the BFF bit occasionally, which is why I still have the app. But I have not been on the dating part at all, and obviously noone can like my profile.

Don't know if I'm just making a mountain out of a molehill and should just let him do what he wants till he decides to delete, or till we have that chat. Or I just delete it completely and say nothing. Or maybe just ask him directly about it? Not sure how to do this without sounding petty. Don't think he'd be using BFF!

Sorry, just sounds so stupid and juvenile when writing this out but it's really bothering me!

Cheers

OP posts:
UpUpUpU · 25/03/2023 18:42

Ask him about it?

HelenaHurricane · 25/03/2023 18:45

It sounds as if you do want to be exclusive, so I would initiate that conversation with him. Otherwise, he won't know!

PeaceLilyCactus · 25/03/2023 18:47

you don’t need to mention the bumble app right now. Just say you’re enjoying spending time with him and and would like him to agree that you’ll date exclusively going forward, so you can feel comfortable you’re both on the same page.

spexsavers · 25/03/2023 19:29

After 10 weeks I'd be looking for the person not to be doing that even without a conversation. I put mine off straight away and my bf wasn't far behind me, if I thought he was still keeping his options open at ten weeks I'd be offski

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