this maybe long, but want to give the full picture
im 65 he 68 , not married live together 20yrs
No kids with him, I have adult ds at home
(please don’t go on about ds being at home, it’s NOT about that)
whenever we’ve had an argument he always brings up things from the past and so hurtful with his words, that I retaliate in my defence.
Ive started getting out more myself, going to pilates,craft, & aqua fit(I suffer anxiety and felt I was coping well to do something for Me)
It got thrown back in my face !
” him saying, you only do it because you had to something “
How I don’t support his hobby, not interested in it, I tried to defend myself by saying
“ I’m sure there is lots of women that don’t like their dh/dp hobbies “
Starting going on then about how celebrities wives follow them around even going to different countries with them
It got to when we go out in the day together
that’s all I do is go looking round shops(Clothes,house things, garden centre) I’ve asked in the past, you decide! He never comes up anything different than where I go!
He won’t go further than 30mls from home and has to be back by 4pm because he can’t tolerate traffic.
When he has a day to himself that’s all he does is goes for a coffee, also when we go this has to be added into the trip.
fast forward, week later and I’m still thinking off the things he threw in my face.
Ill go to start joining in conversation trying to bring it back to normality again, only for him to throw something else again a day or so later
He thinks he is always right, much cleverer than me he his hood with words.
He will say sorry, but that’s just to shut me up and doesn’t fit a minute I don’t think means it.
It just seems to be getting on top of me this time, I feel flat and don’t seem to want to do anything or go anywhere with him and I’m trying to think of excuses not to go out with him
Hes oblivious, in his own world as long as he does his hobbies, goes for a coffee and gets his meals .
Just needed to get this written down out of my head