Moving out but staying in a relationship

[NoraLuka]

Has anyone successfully stayed with their partner after moving out, after living together for a while?

I have been with DP for 8 years, lived together for nearly 6. I just want my own home again for a number of reasons, including the DIY projects he starts but never finishes (gets annoyed if I try to work on them), the tonnes of stuff he won’t get rid of, he isn’t a hoarder or anything but some days I just want a skip to empty our house into! He doesn’t really clean, cook, do the shopping etc. and I just can’t be arsed asking him to do this.

I’m just not interested in trying to get a grown adult to do adulting, and I think my life would be a lot better if I had my own space. We could see each other at weekends and go out, etc. and it would be more fun, less stressful and annoying. DP doesn’t agree at all, and sees it like splitting up. I don’t want to split up but something has to change.

I haven’t looked at the financials/practicalities at all yet but I lived alone with the DC for years and I’m sure I’d manage again somehow.

I bet he doesn't agree because he won't want to do everything for himself!
I'd do it & if he wants to break up I'd let him, you already have DC you don't need to be looking after him too

I think you'd have to be prepared for it to be the end of the relationship altogether, but you're certainly not unreasonable to want him to move out. He's not exactly making himself indispensable, is he? He's just creating work and not being an equal partner. I'd be losing respect for him rapidly.

I'm not sure you can move it into a living apart relationship successfully, but worth a go if you still love him and think it would solve the problems in the relationship.