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Husband clearly doesn't care

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Hellohellohello89 · 25/03/2023 09:02

Both DCs have been really quite poorly since Wednesday not keeping anything down and really high temp. I ended up in A&E with DD (8) yesterday as she hadn't kept even water down for more than 24 hours. DH stayed at home with DS (7) while he was working. We were in hospital for around 6 hours while they did some tests and let us go for me to keep an eye on her. Got back around lunchtime after getting there at 5am. Husband then did 3 hours of work meetings yesterday afternoon even though his boss told him to take the afternoon off!
He had a night out planned with friends last night which he never really asked if I was OK if he still went. He went out and didn't get in until 3.30am. He has now just got up and is going out at 9.30am to go to the football and won't be home until 4pm he said. Leaving me again with 2 poorly children. I'm a bit annoyed he hasn't even asked if I mind if he still goes. I must be a mug!

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category12 · 25/03/2023 10:04

Have you asked him to stay home? You probably shouldn't have to, but maybe he's head up his own arse, maybe he's used to you just getting on with it, maybe it's convenient to him to pretend you'll be fine with it.

Basically, your first move should be to give him a (metaphorical) kick in the pants and say "hey, I'm not alright and could do with your support today".

If he gets shitty about it, then it's another problem, but if you're just sucking it up silently, he can continue in happy ignorance of upsetting you, real or feigned.

ChrisPPancake · 25/03/2023 10:32

Has he always been this selfish?

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