The ring and the ex husband

[springwashing2023]

Ok, I'm wondering what to do....
My ex went off with the OW and was an absolute bastard to me. That was 6 years ago and to be honest, I'm over it. He's clearly not made the best decision in life and now has 2 extra kids and is struggling for money.
I lost a ring he gave me many moons ago and will be getting insurance money for it. For the sake of our joint kids and to show that we all need to move on from bitterness, should I offer the ex half the money as a gesture of good will?
I'm not one for dragging bitterness around with me but would like your thoughts?

Absolutely not, why would you?

Absolutely not

Absolutely not!!

No of course not why be kind to a bastard share it with your children

should I offer the ex half the money as a gesture of good will?

It was a present-why would you give half of a present back to someone who left you and was then a bastard to you?

Noooooo. That's the universe's way of paying you back for having a cheating scumbag of an ex.

Use the money for YOU, something that makes you feel better and enjoy it.

I wouldn’t. If you have some kind of uneasy feeling about the money (although I see no reason to) then pop it in the kids savings or book a nice weekend away with them.

No. It was yours to keep, lose, sell or whatever you wished.

Well it was your ring so it's your money.

Don't be daft.

Definitely not! Treat yourself and your children with the money, you owe this cheat nothing!

Great answers and I shall take the advice ! I think I became a nice person for a nanosecond but yes, he was a dick!

This isn't about being a nice person or not, it's about the rational thing to do!

You lost something which 100% belonged to you. You claim on the insurance so the money is 100% yours. That isn't nasty or vindictive it's just common sense.

When something is given to you as a gift, it's yours. Yours to sell, give away, lose and claim on the insurance, whatever.

Hell no!

Exactly what @perfectcolourfound said. Even if he had been lovely to you and the split was amicable, I wouldn't be handing over any money from a present.

You’ve paid the premiums on that insurance policy for the last six years, so even if it wasn’t cut and dried that it’s your sole property (which it is), you could argue that the recompense is 100% yours because you paid to insure it.

No

I absolutely would not, in the knowledge that he wouldn't reciprocate.
Take half and put it away for your kids instead.

Nice thought. You're a decent person.

But let it remain a fleeting thought. The money will mean nothing to him. Except just well, money.

Keep it. And use it to celebrate moving on.

No

I don't see why you would regardless of whether he was a dick. It's your ring.

@springwashing2023 think of it as a well deserved dickhead tax rebate 😉