Going back to an ex

[MyOverthinkingMind]

I’ve recently been in contact with an ex and we’ve realised all the feelings are still there. We didn’t split up due to cheating etc but my family (quite rightly) have reasons to dislike him. Would I be stupid to try start this up again? It just feels so right but I’m not sure anyone else will see it that way!

Why did you split up?

What were the reasons, how long ago did you split and has either of you had another relationship since?

He had addiction issues (now clean) and he has had another relationship since. I didn’t think I’d ever want to go back but it feels right.

I suppose it depends on what the reasons are why your family dislikes him?

If it's because he hit you/cheated on you/stole your money etc then I can see their point.

However if it's case of just not liking him for no valid reason like his religion/colour/been married before or someone in the family just shit stirring etc then your family are the ones in the wrong.

Oops cross posted!

Its your life & if you think this time it will work & he's sorted his problems out, then go for it as life is too short not to be happy.

I think I’m more concerned because I live at home for now and I just don’t want to cause any problems. But if he’s what’s going to make me happy then I don’t want to not take that chance.

Ex for a reason

OP, but for all the things that he did wrong ,everything would have been right. Attraction does not always go away because you divorce or separate, but attraction should never be what reunites you.

If you are prepared to love him in spite of hid failures and flaws, that is your right and your call. However, don't expect your family and friends to be as welcoming or forgiving. They are also less likely to be as supporting if or when the same problems re-emerge.

Take your time to see how long he remains clean. Don't rush into anything , and you may even want to get some counseling to help you sort out any trust issues that you might rightly have.

We’ve been broken up for almost four years so he’ll be approaching four years clean too. I don’t plan on rushing it. I’d like to just go out and see if we’re still compatible. But I think even that will go down like a lead balloon!

I would say ex for a reason... was broke up for 2 years, got back.. not sure how or why. 10 yrs later Married 2 kids and its all gone to shit, separated recently. Ex for a reason.. don't do it 😑

@27penny why did you break up the first time?

Had grown apart and were living like housemates, got an anonymous message saying he had fathered a child picture and all. And i said fuck this shit and ended it. Bot even sure how we ended up back together a family member of his died and i think i just went back into the role of looking after him.. The child has never appeared or the mother but oddly a fortune teller asked me recently about the mother of my H other child 🥴