I need advice please, and possibly legal I guess…
I feel a fool!! Trusting my husband/ supporting his career, when I left a career in a High paid finance job to look after our children. That was 25 years ago. For 15 yrs thereafter, I was taking part time jobs, changing careers etc to accommodate our children’s school/ term time schedules earning peanuts while his career kept growing. Until we moved countries where I lost the very small salary I was earning anyway. Emotional affair followed ( never found out the absolute truth on that one…. They still work together…) and here is me 10 years abroad… and I had today him telling me “you don’t have anything unless I give it to you”…he meant money of course as that is what he cares abt! . He has said that before in similar wording but somehow today it hit hard… here is me in my 50s…. Giving up my career and supporting my husband to build up his, whilst raising our family! Now children are young adults I hear this!! I do not regret my desicion to focus on my kids although I somehow kept busy working on my peanuts jobs… just to keep my sanity… Somehow it stings.. that I trusted the man I love only to see him entitled, and ungrateful now… who says that after 31 years together??
not sure what to do…. My kids are grown up but there is so much to think… entangled finances, grown up kids and their feelings, family… the list is endless after so many years… I do truly love him after so many years who wouldn’t??? But I realise he is looking after no 1 abd then after his children. I seem to always come last. I do not want to be the last wheel anymore… No more victim mentality… but still it stings…