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What to do when the problems from work come with you at home?

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JasonK · 22/03/2023 07:28

Hi everyone and thank you for the input,

I've been in this relationship for close to a year now and things are wonderful, trying to find a place to move in together and so on. It's a really healthy relationship. Until this month.
My SO is having trouble at work, or better said, she is in a project that is very stressful and at the end of it she will most likely get a job promotion. (most likely June, but can go even further in the second part of the year)
I've been very supportive and will continue to be, however, our love life has gone out the window since it started last month. She is drained when she comes home and rarely has the mood to do anything, just sit on the couch. It's not something I like, but I understand her and I am trying my best to make her feel good.
Last night I've finally got angry because after a really long day for me also, I've left early to go cook her something, but the food was not still fresh when she came home and she barely ate, then it threw it away.
I didn't burst because is not the time, but it really annoyed me.

I don't know what to do because we are different in this type of things. I've never let the work problems come with me at home. I am also in a stressful situation, but I am trying to keep these things separate.

Any advices?
Ultimately, I am worried it might affect our relationship.

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Frozen9 · 22/03/2023 14:10

Jason, your SO is broken right now. How can you get annoyed at someone you love being so down? you say you’re being supportive and you understand her but one of the first things you mention is your “love life” going out the window.

you know when this promotion can happen. You need some patience and try to find what will help your SO in the meantime. Right now, you dont understand her.

It’s your attitude towards it that will affect your relationship.

JasonK · 22/03/2023 14:18

Thank you, Frozen9

Yeah, I understand that, and I am afraid of that.
But what should I do? How to be more supportive?

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