STBX MIL

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I just need to write this down!

I married a narcissist from a narcissistic family

STBX MIL cannot cope with not being the centre of attention

she didn’t like it when her golden child son got married and had children, and had to put the spotlight back on herself

now he has left and is repeating the cycle with OW, she is doing the same.
I have no idea what she is like around their child but she is creating drama with me again. She makes herself look like the victim.

it is very very subtle but I see it now
just needed to vent

My MIL does this. Each time I was pregnant she always created lots of dramas and 'health scares' (lies) so she would get attention from my DH who's an only child.

His dad had an operation recently and not she's started again talking about her potentially being seriously ill (undiagnosed).

It's really hard to live in the cycle of her bouts. She is most certainly a covert narcissist. Thankfully my DH isn't. Horrible isn't it?!

Don't interact with her, is there any need to stay in contact?
Exh should facilitate any visits with your DC.
We probably need more info on her behaviour.
Remember, people only do to you what you allow them to do.
Grey rock her.

How is she creating drama with you again if you are divorced? As she is no longer your MIL I would be quite abrupt to her and exH and telling her to cut the crap your not putting up with this anymore

My MIL is like this. Hideous to people then makes it all about her. She was really awful to our DD14 who has been going through a year of hell finding she's autistic and not coping (hasn't been to school for a year, being taught from home and just emerging Inti the world again, and all she could do was have a go at her about her weight (slightly over weight, nothing dreadful) completely disregarding her MH (body dysmorphia, depression, had suicidal thoughts last year and we've spent a year trying to help with counselling, being home with her ... loads of things) she's just coming around and wham ... grandmother slaps her with the fat thing ... zero other comments or help with ASD etc and 3 months later when we do see her she acts all hateful, looks like she has a bad smell under her nose all afternoon, ignores us, and not an utterance of 'sorry'. Apparently we've been 'keeping her grandchild from her' ... no shit Sherlock!
So I really do feel for you!

Nope, no need to stay in contact

what she is doing is so weird if I go into detail it will be recognisable

latest thing is STBX pils turned up on a day I have the kids (which is most days!) to an event I had taken the DC to
I was completely surprised

i grey rocked them, they challenged me on not talking to them, I made a quick exit with DC to a different area

that doesn’t sound like much but please don’t minimise it
it’s been so many small things over the years that alone don’t add to much but altogether fit a pattern

It’s helped me just to air it