I know he is, and I know I'm right, but I just need some reassurance I'm doing the right thing!
With my boyfriend about 18 months. Don't live together. Both have kids: he has a young son he has 50-50; I have teen girls (under 16) I have all the time.
He wants to spend the whole of every weekend he doesn't have his son together and this isn't always possible with my family commitments. He thinks I'm not putting him first enough because of this. We generally see each other once a week when he has his son, and twice a week when he doesn't. We live about an hour apart and he doesn't drive so it's mainly me travelling. We maybe get two overnight stays a month but he wants more overnight stays; I'd like more but it isn't always practical.
Take this weekend. My girls have commitments Sat am and Sun afternoon. He asked to stay over Fri night, I said sure but I have to drive my DD to her commitment in the morning.
He then asked if I could stay Sat night at his. I said no as I'm not comfortable leaving the girls alone overnight (one is almost 16 but one is a young teen, neither want to be left).
I said he could stay two nights at mine, but I'd have to drop him back around the Sun pm commitments.
He thinks I'm not being committed enough and I should either leave them overnight (he thinks they're old enough and I'm babying them) or cancel their plans so I can see him.
They can't get to their commitments if I don't drive them, we live in a village with no transport. I am in the middle of planning a house move to the nearest city to make things easier for them but that also, obviously, takes up a lot of my time. I also work - and I feel pulled between him and my kids (by him) with no time for myself and I don't think it's right!