help please i need some advice telling my husband its over what to do about bab y?????????

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im telling him its over tomorrow he is away til then and has to drive so i dont want to do anything stuppid

but i have an 18 mo and she is suppossed to be at nursery but

if i tell him its over and he goes he drives i dont and i dont want him taking her from nursery

but at the same time i dont want her there when i tell him so what do i do

cant send her to my mums because she is at work

do i stay at my mums chicken it out and leave him a note saying i need space and im at my mums

please im really scared not that he will hurt me he has never shown the sligthest inclination but more he'll take baby and wont let me have her back

tia

can your mum not take some time off work to look after your daughter? i'm assuming your mum knows that you are about to do it.

sympathy honey and when you feel ready pop in here for some support from others going through relationship break-ups.

no my mums a carer and cant get out of it tomoorow

go to your mums and then when she finishes work nip home on your own to tell him good luck x

i was always told that you should let the nusery know abotu any change in circumstances like this - so maybe you could let them know they should not release your dd to him without your express permission.

well he kinda resolved sitation by coming home early and i told him whilst my mum and dad were there its cool at th emo im sure it will get a lot worse

Sorry to hear you're not having a good time at the moment. At least you've told him now so all you can do is ride out the storm. How did he take the news, did he know it was coming or was it a total shock?
I work in a school and I hate to tell you this but unless you have sole custody of a child and the legal paperwork to prove it then a childs father has every right to collect a child from school/nursery. Sorry, I know this isn't what you want to hear but it's better that you know now than find out when he has already collected her.
Good luck, hope it all stays calm and amicable! x