Help me get over this crush

[JamSandle]

I'm in a relationship. Recently developed a crush on someone at work. I have no intention of acting on it. But I keep having sexual fantasies and thoughts. Can you help me get over this crush? Any advice? I know it will run its course and peter out but jb the meantime its very uncomfortable!

I've had crushes on the odd bit of office totty when I was in a relationship. There's nothing wrong with it and having little fantasies. It's exciting and harmless. Unless, that is, it starts to have an impact on your own relationship and there's any danger of it spilling over into cheating.

Imagine how they look when they are on the toilet, and then doing the cursory ‘look’ at the toilet roll

imagine them picking their nose and eating it

Imagine how they look when they are driving alone in their car and fart and seem pleased with thenself

second to that - what is it about this person that you are lacking in your current life?
is it an aspect of their personality ?
is it how they carry themselves?
what do they have that you THINK your partner doesn’t have?

Are you both single?

I have a long term boyfriend. No idea about college - they're very private.

I’ve had this. Just avoid being around them (especially situations where you are alone and/or alcohol is involved) and it wears off in time :)

Been invited to work drinks tomorrow. I think I'll decline and phone my boyfriend on the way home:)

Just had to talk to him at work and oh myyyyyy God....crush reignited. How do people manage this?

Cut contact as best you can. It's hell and literally makes some people insane. I'm 9 months into meeting my major crush and thought I was ok until I saw him again last week. I'm back down the rabbit hole but I've deleted number, whatsapp messages and had to have a serious word with myself.

I could find all manner of reasons to contact him and if the timing was different etc etc. But it's not and that's the way it is so I move on and try to block the thoughts.