How to prevent a narcissist husband to alienate your DC from you?

[Mars27]

Just looking for answers, recommendations, tips, advice, any useful information as the thread title says, my husband is a narcissist through and through and is succeeding in alienating my only child from me.

I watched nearly all Dr Ramani's videos but I need something more specific on how to deal with the situation above.

The only reason I'm still married is because if I said I wanted a divorce, he would drag me through the courts trying to get custody and no doubt he would succeed as he can afford expensive legal advice and I can't. Also, he would take advantage of the situation and use it to complete his mission of turning my DS's head against me. If I stay married at least I can keep an eye on the things he's being told. It's parental alienation pure and simple.

Please help. Thanks

Could you get counselling for your son? It really helped my son to work through and learn how to stand up to his dad.

And counselling for you too, to either figure out how to stay with him or to leave and support your son.

Hope you've found peace

I felt bad reading this and wanted to answer your actual question…you can’t stop him unfortunately as you have no control over what he does and says. I left and divorced mine, went through court for 3 years. He finally got contact even after being found guilty of emotional abuse to us both. He uses his every other weekend to fill our daughters head with lies and manipulation. But she can come home to me and I can do my best to show her a healthy relationship and to discuss what she wants to discuss in the hope that one day she will be able to tell the difference between healthy and unhealthy. Or she may end up a lot like him and I may loose her a little. Either way I’m not a miserable mess wasting my life away with him, I’ve got control over myself which makes a huge difference. I am able to show her the best I can a good life. It’s horrible sharing children with a narcissist and it’s my biggest regret.

Staying will not stop the heartache, it will not change the outcome, it’s just an awful thing to have to come to terms with. You aren’t in control of how your son will view your husband or yourself, he has to figure that out himself as he lives his life and lives in the outside world and interacts with society. It’s a long game.