Mother's Day is always painful for me. I had a difficult upbringing then went onto have one DC who is now an adult and has severe SEN. He has no concept of Mother's Day and now lives in a placement. I have no relationship with his dad and haven't had for years. I know in myself that I've done all I can for my DS but there's no one to acknowledge that, on one to say that I'm a mum. It hurts on days like this. I didn't have any more DC for various reasons but that's always a source of grief too.
I know this sounds like a bit of a pity party and I don't mean it to. Honestly, most of the time I'm okay, I cope. I love my DS and I know in his own way he loves me. It's just hard seeing mums and kids and expressions of love everywhere.
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Spottycarousel · 19/03/2023 11:59
IncessantNameChanger · 19/03/2023 12:08
Happy mothers day 💓 my son has severe sen too. He loves you. I'm sure of that. You are the most amazing sort of mum there is. Selfish, devoted, you would do anything for your child. I'm sure of that too. Treat yourself and pat yourself on the back for getting child the best possible outcome he could achieve, because I also know getting a care package would have been no walk in the park for you.
IncessantNameChanger · 19/03/2023 13:59
I know what it's like. My friends son has a child even more disabled than mine. He can't talk but I know he adores her. You just see it and feel it. Remember communication isnt just verbal or written. I'm sure if you sit and think you can see he loves you, he would send you a card or call if he could. Also he would be more likely to do than most sons as he knows how much you have done for him. I'm betting your a fantastic mum, and I'm proud of you. Do celebrate your awesomeness. Even if it's a walk in the rest air and buying your favourite chocolate. Buy yourself something nice and remind yourself you are very much a brilliant mum who's child loves them very much. Have a wonderful day ❤
EarthSight · 19/03/2023 17:31
I sorry OP. That sounds really tough. Do you cmmunicate much with mothers in the same position such as yourself? I know it's not going to compensate, but thinking you could do with similar company that understands the emotional hardship.
maddy68 · 19/03/2023 17:40
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Spottycarousel · 19/03/2023 17:49
To be honest I don't. I never have because I've always felt it would be too painful. I know that probably isn't the case but even mums with severely learning disabled children tend to have other children and have that relationship with them whereas for me it's nothing. I know that doesn't take away their grief over their disabled child, of course it doesn't, but I still feel alone with mine. Maybe I will reach out to people someday.
EarthSight · 19/03/2023 17:31
I sorry OP. That sounds really tough. Do you cmmunicate much with mothers in the same position such as yourself? I know it's not going to compensate, but thinking you could do with similar company that understands the emotional hardship.
SparklingLime · 20/03/2023 16:12
It sounds like you've had many of the very hardest parts of motherhood, but many of the easier, lighter parts are not accessible to you. That sounds so hard. I hope you can have a nice moment when taking some favourite foods.
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