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How do you get over a broken heart
Dancingqueen90 · 19/03/2023 08:42
As the title says really....I keep letting the same person mess me around.
Stupidly let someone back into my life for them to let me down. I have broken contact (again) but back in a sad & angry place.
Treacletoots · 19/03/2023 08:44
You stop focusing on how much you miss them or even how badly they treated you.
You focus on moving onwards, upwards and blocking them entirely from your life.
If you focus your mind, your heart will very quickly catch up.
Dery · 19/03/2023 09:01
Time does really help but in the meantime get really busy with other things. Regard this as a time for treating yourself. Are there any films you’ve been longing to do? Trips you’ve been longing to make? Activities you want to have a go at? Make a list and start working your way through it.
Frightenedbunny · 19/03/2023 09:21
Keep busy! Set yourself a goal. Think positively about how strong you will be without them. My biggest driver was proving to myself how much I didn’t need them and how much stronger I’d be without him. Still hurts sometimes 20 years on, but I’m much happier and proud that I left such a toxic relationship. Good luck op.
ponyinmud · 19/03/2023 22:35
You write 2 lists, 1 a list of the ways they make you feel good and the 2nd the ways they make you feel like shit.
The 2nd list is often longer than the first.
You then go live your life until you meet someone who gives you all the stuff on the 1st list and none on the 2nd.
Hehx3 · 19/03/2023 22:43
Grieving is hard and its only a brain chemistry that keeps you hooked. That will be less strong as the times go by. Block the contact and try to sit with your painful emotions. Human brain naturally goes back to familiar. Make familiar not to have someone that is not treating you well. You will be better off and find a right partner for yourself. X
Watchkeys · 19/03/2023 23:17
What are the positive feelings that the relationship gives you, when it's going right?
bamboonights · 19/03/2023 23:22
ponyinmud · 19/03/2023 22:35
You write 2 lists, 1 a list of the ways they make you feel good and the 2nd the ways they make you feel like shit.
The 2nd list is often longer than the first.
You then go live your life until you meet someone who gives you all the stuff on the 1st list and none on the 2nd.
I love this!
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