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should I contact an old bf?
weightstrugglinmum · 19/03/2023 00:16
I had a very random, completely out of the blue dream about a bf I had in my late teens (now early 40's). It was great seeing him in my dream, and I have subsequently found him via the internet and just wondering if I should email him???
What do I hope to achieve is the question? He now works about 4 hours away, but I think my dream was almost a prompt to possibly try to apologise to him for ending it so badly with him, when he was a lovely chap and deserved a lot better.
He may not even remember me, even though I'm sure he probably would, because we were each other's first serious relationship in high school.
Just wondering if anyone has encountered anything similar please, or any thoughts/words of wisdom!
Whatthefnow · 19/03/2023 00:18
No, don't do that op.
I'm sure he's got over the breakup by now
weightstrugglinmum · 19/03/2023 00:21
Very good point, thank you!
Think its more a reflection on my current relationship, if that makes sense!
dollypartin · 19/03/2023 00:25
Are you single? Do you want to date him again? If it's just to apologise then do that but figure out what your reasons are first
Whatthefnow · 19/03/2023 06:12
Yes, that makes sense op and I've been in that position before but how often have we read on here a post from a worried wife about an ex girlfriend popping up after years.
weightstrugglinmum · 19/03/2023 08:06
Thank you all. No I'm not single, and I don't want to date him again. I think its just part of a bigget picture where I'm reflecting on my relationship choices really and how I'm feeling a bit lost in myself at the moment. I won't contact him, and I'm thankful for everyone's perspective!
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