Me and my ex of 8 years broke up for a year but still live together due to selling the house.
Our breakup was messy and there were a lot of reasons involving trust as to why we split.
In the year we were apart there were a lot of name calling , anger and abuse (in arguments from him).
We’ve decided to try and see how things go with us and whether we can get the trust/spark back in our relationship as he says he still loves me and he thinks we’re each others people.
In the time we were apart I was seeing someone for 4 months who made me feel something I hadn’t felt in a while. Unfortunately he wasn’t in the place I was as he’s very laid back and our goals weren’t the same. My ex also slept with 2 people out of hurt after finding out Id been seeing someone.
So a few days in and I’m struggling to feel excited about it. I used to worship the ground he walked on and wanted marriage and babies - convinced we were meant to be together. Now I’m just racked with guilt that I can’t stop thinking about the guy I was seeing and how I wish things were different. A lot of damage was done with my ex over the last year and I’m just not sure it can be repaired …. What if I can’t fall back in love with him like I was ? What if I can’t forget all the nasty words and how I never felt good enough?
I am working on myself at the moment and I know I’ll be ok on my own but I really wanted to try and salvage what was a good relationship for most part. When do you know it’s time to completely let go?
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Angel345 · 18/03/2023 08:09
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