Abuse - how it started

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It was after our first baby
He did very little in terms of care
It was all on me

I had no local family
I had no friends

Our child’s SEN emerged
The care required became more and was on me

I became unwell and he had to step up but instead left us

His parents have supported him every step
and in hindsight I see are deeply misogynistic

He has a new victim much much younger who I can see the cycle is being repeated with

So that is how it started
My vulnerability was no support and having a kid with additional need

first relationship started with a slap around the face which then turned to punches took that for 4 years
second relationship he came at me with his fists but stopped when i cowered down, and thats how the next 20 years went. he always got his own way because he only had to give me the look and i would back down
he knew i was scared and played on it
i'm on my own now and happy
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It started with extreme yelling, half way through my third pregnancy. I put it down to him being stressed at work.

Everyone he's drunk he's verbally abusive name calling shouting causing arguments . I have no family support but have courage now saving money and planning to leave by summer. Looking forward to healing.

Meant everytime he's drunk which is everyday single day

Abuse - how it started.

He decided to abuse.

When pregnant with our child.....hence me only having one. Lots of sulking and cancelling meals to punish me. Lots of nitpicking.

When our child was 2 weeks old, his family came to stay for the weekend. They went out and got drunk, came home in the early hours of the morning and woke me and baby. The day after, when they had left, I had done the washing up and left a glass in the wrong place on the drainer. Whilst I was breastfeeding our child, he came into the room and shouted at me so much, I was terrified. He said the glass would break, deform our child permanently and that he would be scarred for life and it would all be my fault. He emotionally abused me for years after that with me not really being sure what was happening. I asked him to leave 2 years ago and now he just has post separation abuse as a tactic, which sucks but is a damned sight better than living with the bastard. I just didn't see it all coming as he can turn the charm on at the beginning. Good luck to everyone stuck with an abuser. I wouldn't have got out without my local domestic abuse charities.