Is this just porn or something more?

[PickleMcPickle]

I've been puzzled by this incident which happened years ago when I was married and I'm hoping MN can give me some insight. I'm now happily divorced.
One day my husband locked himself in the study and I went looking for him. I knocked on the door, he unlocked it and was furious at me for disturbing him. He had been using the PC and when I glanced at the screen one of the minimised tabs said "teenage anal sex". I didn't question what what he was looking at, at the time because he was yelling at me and I was begging for forgiveness. It's only in looking back that the "teenage" bit bothers me. The line between adult and child.

Sadly teenage is popular category.
So, could be ’just porn’, but predatory and creepy as hell none the less.

Sorry you went through all that, but good you are rid of him and in happier place in life.

I didn't question what what he was looking at, at the time because he was yelling at me and I was begging for forgiveness.

Quite apart from the tab, this is very disturbing. Begging forgiveness for knocking on the door after him yelling at you is not a sign of a healthy relationship... at all! Is he usually an abusive arsehole?

As for the tab, my understanding is that, disgusting as it might be, "teen" porn is very normal and available on standard porn sites, but that the "pornstars" are billed as being over 18, with certificates of compliance shown before the start. Whether the certificates mean anything or whether the billing is to be believed is another matter.

I didn't question what what he was looking at, at the time because he was yelling at me and I was begging for forgiveness.

I'm so glad he's your ex.
How DARE he?

Did you have counselling, or do The Freedom Programme after getting rid of this angry little pornhound?
www.freedomprogramme.co.uk/

btw I don't subscribe to the notion of "just" porn.
It's usually a slippery slope & even the so-called vanilla stuff is rife with coercion, & people who pay to view it are perpetuating some really nasty & damaging ideas about women & sexuality.

Men who seacrh for "teen porn" can get in the sea.

Thank you I'd never heard of the Freedom Program but will try the online course. There are still things that I've not resolved.
I wish I'd found MN earlier. It's been so useful to read through other's posts and learn from their experiences and the advice of MNers.

All porn is self described as either teenage or milf (regardless of the participant's actual ages), there is literally nothing in between. It was probably mainstream porn site content, rather than sinister dark web stuff. Up to you where your moral compass points on mainstream porn but it's probably not worth dwelling on something so long in the past. You're free of him now, and good riddance.

He was yelling at you so your focus would be on him and not what he was looking at. Making you feel bad so you would doubt yourself instead of being angry at him for looking at porn.