Hi, I'm hoping someone may be able to offer some advice as I'm feeling numb at the moment.
Since our twins were born 12 years ago, my husband had increasingly become more distant to the point that in the last 7 years he has moved into the spare bedroom. There has been no physical intimacy for at least 5 years and nothing emotional between us for years before this. He makes family outings etc awkward as he clearly doesn't want to be there.
I know life gets in the way, we both work full time, my husband works shifts, but I have in the past raised by concerns about our relationship and the lack of connection. In addition to this, my husbands mood swings have become unbearable and its really affected one child.
Things came to a head earlier this year when he became aggressive, not physical, but verbally and he was threatening. Things have been very tense since and I have told him I want a divorce as I cant out up with this any longer and its not fair on the children.
He has now told me that he has been addicted to prescription drugs for 10-12 years. He has had 3 major surgeries so the drugs have been prescribed since then. If I'm honest, I'm not convinced this is the truth as I've heard so much over the years. Despite me wanting to talk about or relationship issues, he has never mentioned this in the past which for me makes things worse as I've explained how exhausted I am and need more help with the kids. So despite knowing how I felt, he's continued for years allowing me to struggle and become ill. At one point, I was told to stop going on about it.
I just need to get out and find a home that is a home where me and the kids can feel comfortable, be ourselves and enjoy life.
Any thoughts and advice will be much appreciated.